Why I Bought Followers and Why I Regret it Now

You may be wondering what on Earth possessed me to write this post, and I might be committing blogger suicide here, but buying followers is such a taboo in the blogging world so I felt the need to talk to you a little bit about my experience, and perhaps offer a different perspective on the subject.

I think it was about 4 or 5 years ago that I bought some followers. I was fairly new to Instagram and the whole concept of being an Instagrammer or ‘insta-famous’ didn’t really exist yet. I’ve never been one for deferred gratification, being a typical Aries I’m stubborn and very impatient, and I just couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t get thousands of followers compared to other girls. Even to this day, I still have a nasty, detrimental habit of comparing myself to others in every aspect of my life and when I don’t feel like I measure up, it does get me down. I’ve gotten a lot better at not doing this now, but it is does still creep up from time to time.

So, when I saw an ad for a company selling “real” followers, I was intrigued. Being young and naive, I took things at face value and it didn’t even occur to me that it might turn out to be a big deal later on. At the time I was in quite an emotionally abusive relationship. Over time my partner managed to manipulate me into alienating myself from everyone around me, and the only friend I had lived a few hours away. I was at a point in my life where I needed validation, and so my self-worth was measured by my follower count. All I wanted was some engagement and to feel better about myself, and as bloggers weren’t as well-known then as they are now, there were no “how to” guides on how to grow your followers the organic way. Like I said, it was a long time ago and I can’t remember exactly how much I paid, I think it was around a fiver, and I think I bought around 500.

One thing I found out very quickly was that although it made my follower count go up for a short while, it did absolutely nothing for engagement. Nada. Squat. I didn’t get any more likes, any more comments, so I quickly realised that the whole thing was completely pointless as they definitely weren’t anything close to “real followers”. I’d unintentionally turned into one of those poor fools that had been duped so I figured “oh well, I’ve only lost a fiver out of it – lesson learned”, but now it’s a very different story. I feel that everyone who has recently been “caught out” buying followers are all tarred with the same brush, and it’s assumed that their purchase was purely for deceptive purposes. Granted, in a lot of cases it probably is – but in my case, I guess the only person I was trying to deceive was myself. If you’ve been caught buying followers it seems as though you’re immediately branded with a scarlet letter, labelled as untrustworthy, fake, a cheat, and “one of those people who bought followers”, regardless of your reasons behind it.


Why am I telling you this? There are a few reasons. As my blog and social media accounts grow, obviously I have goals to work with different brands and people, and I like to pride myself on being honest. Now that it’s quite easy to find out if someone has purchased followers, I don’t want to give anyone else the satisfaction of “outing” me further down the line. I’m holding my hands up and admitting that I made a mistake, an error in judgement because, like you, I’m only human. Also, while there are many different reasons people purchase followers, (none of which make it alright, just to clarify), I feel like a lot of it may just come down to not feeling good enough. That was certainly the case for me. There is so much competition in the blogosphere it’s unreal, and it’s become an actual problem. Bloggers are being pitted against each other and so many people feel like they can’t measure up to the ‘bigger’ bloggers out there, and personally I do get the vibe that there’s a bit of a divide in the blogging world which is such a shame because everyone deserves to be celebrated for the content they create.  It’s almost as though there’s some sort of V.I.P Blogger Club, and by putting yourself out there you’re being judged as to whether or not you’re worthy of a place in the club. I genuinely believe that women together, who support and champion each other, can heal the world and we can move mountains.

Just to clarify here, it was only Instagram which I purchased followers for. All my Twitter and Blog followers have been completely genuine from Day 1. I’d assumed that as it’d been a while since I made my purchase, all the fake accounts had been deleted and weeded out, but recently I went through my followers to see how many were still there, and I was shocked to find that there were still a good couple hundred there. I then went through and blocked all the accounts I’d bought, so now my follower count is actually accurate. (Even though the algorithm is still shite!) Also, this was a long time before I’d even started blogging, so I can assure you it wasn’t done to try and cheat my way ahead in the blogging world. I’m not that kind of person. I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night knowing that I was in a position that I didn’t deserve to be in. Sure I’d love loads of blog followers, but the difference between the Kimberley who’s speaking to you today and the one 5 years ago is that I no longer hang every thought on what other people think of me. If someone doesn’t like me now, I’m absolutely fine with that – have a nice life.

I’m really hoping that everyone understands why I’ve published this post. I wouldn’t want it to ruin any future opportunities or taint my reputation in any way. (You never know, if it does I could do a Taylor Swift in a few years time). I just wanted to give a perspective from “one of those bloggers who’s bought followers” and to hopefully dispel a bit of the stigma. Believe me when I say I wish I’d never wasted my money, and it’s taught me that when it comes to blogging, or anything else for that matter, you can’t take any shortcuts to get to the top. Only hard work and determination will get you where you want to be. The only way to receive real engagement is to give real engagement. I’ve found that the more I take the time to comment on other people’s blog posts and Instagram photos etc, the more I get in return, and honestly, it’s a thousand times more rewarding to earn it organically than to buy it.

Finally, I’m not religious at all, but there is a quote from the Bible that I’m going to leave you with that I feel is quite appropriate here.

“Let him who is without sin cast the first stone”.

 

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12 thoughts on “Why I Bought Followers and Why I Regret it Now

  1. Look at my girl donning her brave girl undercrackers! I’m so proud of you – everybody makes me mistakes, and nobody is perfect! You know I’m the same when it comes to the whole comparing yourself to other girls thing, it’s rubbish. Well done you for sharing, my little peanut ❤ xx

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  2. This is such a brave post to write and I can understand how the situation came about: it’s so so easy to feel compared to everybody else. But ultimately it’s such a scam and I’m sorry you got tricked into it but you know what? You’re the bigger person coming out the other side and having a story to tell about it. It’s a lesson learnt and that everyone can learn from. I love this:

    “I genuinely believe that women together, who support and champion each other, can heal the world and we can move mountains.”

    It’s so freaking true. Great post chic xx

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    1. Thank you chick! Comparing yourself to others is such a self-destructive thing to do, and it’s hard not to do that but I think it’ll make for a happier life! Xx

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  3. It’s so hard not to compare yourself to others, especially in the climate of today’s society, but I really admire you for doing your own thing and writing about something not many bloggers would want to admit to or post about!xx

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  4. I’m so happy to see this post. There’ been so much vilifying recently about people who buy followers, without taking in to account why/when it happened.Like you say, it’s unfair to tar everyone with the same brush without taking context in to account. Also, can I just say I adore your writing style, it’s informal and chatty, definitely my fave! x

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  5. I’m glad you’re being honest about this. It can definitely take a tumble to your self-worth when you see other ladies on instagram who have thousands of followers and are wondering why you don’t. A lot of them do buy followers, but like you said it’s just a number and those people aren’t actually viewing/engaging with your photos. My aunt signed up on instagram two years ago, posted two photos, and then never used it again. She left her account on there, however. When I was going through my follow list and unfollowing old accounts, I came across my aunts. I clicked on it, but before I could unfollow, I noticed she was following over 600 accounts. “That can’t be right”, I said. I clicked on who she was following, and she never would have followed those accounts. Some of them were musicians, others were fashion bloggers. So I knew right away that those people were paying for followers, and you see what kind of followers they are… inactive ones. The whole thing is skeezy.

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